Brave Love & Self Care

Episode 60: Brave Love & Self Care with Alexis Asbe

Would you ever treat an employee the way you treat yourself? Most of us are pretty rough on ourselves and we don’t take the time for self care because it feels like we have a million other things to do. Here’s the thing though, there is a very good reason why airlines tell you to put your own oxygen mask on first before assisting others. You are no help to anyone if you’re unconscious from lack of oxygen. The same thing applies to business and today you’ll hear from Alexis Asbe about the importance of self care and how to fit it into your busy schedule.

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Are You Stuck?

Do you have days when you want to wear the outfit on the left and other days you would choose the dress on the right?

Do you struggle with making decisions when both choices appeal to different parts of you?

Do you like lots of different things but can’t decide which to choose?

Don’t panic, there are many of us that feel your pain and find ourselves stuck in the land of indecision!

When making decisions regarding your wedding ask yourself these questions:

  1. How do I feel in my body about this decision? (Here is a little tip: put your dominant hand on your navel, close your eyes and listen to/feel your body. Where may you feel tense or uncomfortable which the choice at hand?
  2. Do I love this _________ (dress, shoes, cake, location, etc.)?
  3. Can I live with this decision?

If you feel uncomfortable in any part of your body; stop, breathe and walk away. Take some time in silence and ask that part of your body, “what is going on?” Then listen to it! Your next two answers should be a big fat YES! If not, walk away!

Do not start freak out and start asking everyone else what they think. When you ask other people to give you their opinion, it is just their opinion and personal views. It may not be right for you. I repeat, it may not be right for you and they are not you! You are uniquely different. You are not ordinary in any way. You are special and there is no one exactly like you. Give yourself plenty of time and freedom to make decisions. Never choose one thing because you are afraid of the other. Rushing or being put under pressure from others only zaps your creative energy and can distract you from your true self awareness. If you need support, get some. Asking for support is completely different than asking someone else to make decisions. Your ideal support team sounds like this, “Listen to heart and do what you think is best.” Another good form of support from your posse, would be, “Trust your gut feeling.”

Give yourself some time to breathe, rest and feel at peace before you start looking again. Do not be in a hurry to make major decisions.

Here is a little shout out to all of you that are conflicted…(this is also a great suggestion for: health, life, work, “men” or just about anything you would need to make a decision about). You got this! Breathe, relax and repeat!

Peace, Love and My name is, “Conflicted” and I am addicted to supporting you.

Ally

Rocky Road & Being You

Don’t get all weird, like "here she goes on an idealistic cheerleader 'Ra-Ra-Go Team'" rant but today…

I am grateful.

I am simply to my core immensely thank for (not necessarily in order of any value or context):

  • being married to Aqua-Man.
  • relationships that challenge me. (I can be hostile about this also.)
  • my home
  • for temptation
  • for suffering
  • my beautiful children and they have a village of people that care for them
  • my trainer Jill, that pushed me to the edge of failure this morning (And that I did not round house kick her, hence “temptation.”)
  • the woman that flipped me off on highway 5
  • grace
  • beautiful people
  • that the laundry is done (If only for a few hours.)
  • the desire to create
  • being tested
  • opportunity to choose (I did give her the bird back.)
  • feeling loved
  • simply being

Where ever you are, for whatever you are feeling, for any struggle or challenge that you may be experiencing I pray that you are overcome with the essence of who are today, who you have been and for who you are to become.

Today I choose gratitude for being alive, and YOUR unique intrinsic indispensable qualities that live in you…your being.

Be you.

Oh and one more thing…

I am thankful that a rocking 5 star hotel with rocky-road ice cream with extra warm marshmallow sauce and toasted walnuts, with whip cream on top is in my future.

Who are you and what are you grateful for?

Peace, Love and (while wearing super cute cheerleader skirt) give yourself a T-H-A-N-K—Y-O-U!

Ally