To Infinity and Beyond?

In a couple days...One of my deepest desires and dreams is coming true. May I be honest, with you? 

Will you judge me?  Perhaps this is the time that I finally stop worrying, and start talking. I think there may be a few of us out there.  Perhaps you will relate. Who is "us?"  We are the ones with deep, heart-aching dreams and desires pretending to live while hiding some of our most glorious truths.

I know, you think I am brave. I am not.

I haven't been since birth. Scared. Apprehensive. A late bloomer. Still am, and probably always will be.  Stories of how I was scared of strangers as a child still run rampant at the holiday dinner table. 

Today, I am in my normal state right before something big happens: conflicted, scared, and excited. 

I am diving into the unknown, and what is worse I have several other women that are joining me. I asked them to follow their heart, to be brave, and for no logical reason, except to be led by something bigger than themselves.  They are willfully joining me on a once-in-lifetime adventure half way around the world, in the middle of the Aegean Sea.  

Welcome to Greece. I did not think of logistics, reasonable expectations, or allow my head to start dragging my body around. Otherwise, this experience would never happen.  Still, all the questions ran through my brain. Tedious things like, travel times, ferrying to a remote island, language barriers, safety, terrorists, family stuff, blah blah blah ... 

Also there were those more first world, ego kind of questions such as what if no one wants to go, what if I invest all this time and effort and it’s a failure, what if I suck... Ugh, the list goes on.  

I pressed into my heart and my body. I chose every detail to be created out of fun and desire.  (Holy crap Christian friends, hold the door, she said the D word.) DESIRE? Is that flesh? Oh my. Fleshy, flesh, flesh. F-L-E - E- S -c S - H!  

Maybe?  Every part of my body and internal Holy Spirit longs for Greece, connecting with myself and other women. Greece is where the Goddess is and is highly favored. Since Goddess resonates with me and the current season of my life, that is where I will go.   

Why Goddess? Because I believe that God is in all of us. God looks not at male or female, but at that heart of a human.  My religion is love. And just because I am striving to embody the full feminine version of me, doesn’t mean that I don’t love men. I do.  

Right now, I simply want to transform into who I am created to be: a fully empowered female living and unraveling within a masculine driven culture. Struggling and muscling through life does not work for me anymore. Our "just do it" culture, feels inauthentic.  It is time that every woman, every Goddess, rises into the full glory of her eternal natural wisdom and beauty.  My desire is for every woman (and man) to be set free and for the truth to rise in all of us.  So that we can achieve a full integration of body, mind and spirit in every aspect of our lives. But first, we all must deconstruct a culture of lies and rise a culture of sisters.

Goddess Rising in Greece: Reclaiming Your Body, Business and Love Retreat is about to happen! 

Amen, Awoman, Peace out, Namaste ...and thank you for sending me big bold love as I drop into the unknown. 

 

With pleasure as a fully embodied woman,

Ally 

(By the way, I made these beautiful gift bags for all my Goddesses because it made me feel good. I love to honor and spoil people. There is room for all my love languages in my work. This feels right. So this is where I will start.)

Brave Love & Self Care

Episode 60: Brave Love & Self Care with Alexis Asbe

Would you ever treat an employee the way you treat yourself? Most of us are pretty rough on ourselves and we don’t take the time for self care because it feels like we have a million other things to do. Here’s the thing though, there is a very good reason why airlines tell you to put your own oxygen mask on first before assisting others. You are no help to anyone if you’re unconscious from lack of oxygen. The same thing applies to business and today you’ll hear from Alexis Asbe about the importance of self care and how to fit it into your busy schedule.

or access the episode here!

Simplicity is Significant

I love this article found via Offbeat Bride outlining the beauty of simplicity when it comes to a wedding. Basically took the words right out of my mouth! Is a no-frills wedding right for you? What’s meaningful for you?

 

Photo by 10baretoes Photography
Original article by Inverted Jenny
September 8, 2014

My future husband and I went to the first of three weddings we will attend before we are wed. It was a delight to sit back and enjoy someone else’s big day, rather than fussing over our own.

Obviously I was paying attention to the choices that were made and how they compared to ours. But rather than breaking that down bit by bit, I’ll mention some of the lessons I took away from the whole thing…

1. You can have a no-frills wedding and people will absolutely still enjoy it

This wedding was held on a campground in the mountains. The couple was married in a small amphitheater and the 40-50 guests sat on logs surrounding them. There was no bridal party. The bride did not carry flowers. Dinner was Mexican food in the lodge, the cakes were pre-made by a beloved local bakery. They served good beer and wine and bottles of hard liquor appeared later on. Dancing took place on a basketball court (complete with nets) and a bonfire was held later with marshmallows and savory snacks for the drinkers. I think the sole decorations were blue and white plastic table covers in the lodge, a single string of colored Christmas lights around the basketball court, and a simple photo booth.

And guess what? No one missed any of the extras. Everyone was happy to catch up with old friends, dance crazily, laugh at drunken antics, bask in the glow of the bonfire, and crash in their tents at the end of the night. All that mattered was that the bride and groom brought their friends and family together in one place and made sure they were relaxed and comfortable. That was more than enough.

2. You can dispense with traditions at your wedding and people will still enjoy it

Once and for all, I’ve decided to never again listen to those who say, “It’a not a wedding if you don’t have [thing that the speaker wants you to have]!” A wedding is a wedding because two people get married and that is all there is to it. This bride and groom had no cake cutting, no first dance, no bouquet or garter tosses, and no toasts, and no one missed any of these things because they weren’t things that fit this bride and groom’s style.

It’s awesome to have these things if you want them, and it’s great to let them go if you don’t. I’ve been married before, and I learned from my first wedding that people know when you’re doing something just because you thought you had to. I’m finally feeling pretty secure about making similar decisions for our wedding.

3. Be gracious and don’t shy away from being of service

The bride and the groom made a small speech thanking everyone for coming, took it upon themselves to make sure their guests knew what was happening next throughout the night (there was no MC; they did all the announcements themselves), and helped clean up the lodge themselves in between dinner and dancing (guests pitched in, too).

I think we’ve been sold this idea that the bride and the groom shouldn’t have to lift a finger and should be completely catered to on their big day, and while that’s fine, it’s not always necessary. I really felt like I was personally welcomed and hosted by this bride and groom, and there was a real sweetness to that that I haven’t experienced at a lot of weddings.

But lest I sound too preachy, I’ll report this exchange between me and my partner while we helped clean up:

Him: See, this is nice. Don’t be surprised if I do a lot of this at our wedding.
Me: No way, dude, that’s why I hired a coordinator!

We chatted later about it and I pointed out that I wanted us to have time to focus on one another and on our guests, not on cleanup, and he said that seemed like a good idea. Still, this wedding got me thinking about how I can take it upon myself to make sure our guests feel welcomed by us.

4. Provide what entertainment you can, and your guests will take care of the rest

People who want to have a good time don’t really require much to do so. They will take what you are able to give and run with it. At this wedding, we didn’t particularly care for the DJ, but then I began to worry a bit: at least this couple was offering dancing, which is something we won’t be able to do at our wedding! (Venue doesn’t have space for it.) My fiancé then pointed out that when the songs were no good, people weren’t dancing, but they were still excitedly talking to one another on the dance floor. “They really just want to catch up with their friends,” he said, and I think he was right.

You don’t have to worry about the DJ being good enough, or the games being the right selections, or the exact number of chairs around the bonfire or whatever. Pick things that will likely work for your people and let them make their own fun after that. I watched a whole group of people enthusiastically sing Raffi songs around a bonfire at this wedding because they overheard the bride singing. You can’t plan for that kind of goodness!

5. The emotional stuff is the real takeaway

My favorite moment of this wedding was when the groom’s father teared up during his reading. I’ll take feels over frills any day.

 

Article Source: http://offbeatbride.com/2014/09/no-frills-wedding

Jennifer Allen: A Brave Bride's Bikini Body

This challenge has helped to change my life. Learning to be truly honest with myself about my body and the condition it’s in was extremely powerful. It is not easy to admit fault or weaknesses within ourselves, especially when it comes to the food we choice to fuel our bodies with or our level of fitness. It takes conscious effort, patience and time to be honest with yourself about what you put into your body and how it affects you, but it is worth every minute of the struggle. Nothing about it was easy and every step was in fact a challenge, but I couldn’t be happier with the change in my body, mind and perspective. Following the individualized diet plan and eating healthier foods has given me more clarity in my mind than I ever thought it would. Through this clarity I I learned that I enjoy being healthier and more fit, it makes me happier in life. There were times when I was pushing my physical limits with the workout plans and thought I would give up, but I didn’t and the results were worth every drop of sweat and there was a lot of sweat. It is an amazing feeling to know that I challenged myself to be better and I succeeded. I think the most important thing I learned was that, just like everything else in life, there will always be struggles and obstacles to being healthy and fit but its about being honest with yourself about what they are and accepting the challenge to overcome them.

~Jennifer Allen (Soon to be Jennifer Fontana)

10 Ways To Plow Through Your List

Do you have an overwhelming list of things you need to do?

Me too! (I always have a list!  Ha!)

Here is my top 10 ways to plow through your wedding to do list:

1. Never say: “I can’t.” “Altar” your thinking. (Sorry. I can’t help being a goof ball sometimes.)

2. Focus on having fun. (If it’s not fun – don’t do it.)

3. Don’t center your attention on what you don’t know, concentrate on what you love.

4. Write your “goals list” on paper with dates of completion.

5. Ask for help.  (Remember, you are not alone. You are a team.)

6. Be open to new ideas and suggestions.

7. Truly enjoy each moment while on this journey.  (After all you are getting married; cherish this season.)

8. Celebrate you and your loves’ progress daily.

9. Hang around with fun people who want the best for you.

10. Stop talking about what you need to do, and START. Take action!

These are some ideas that help me daily.

Tell me, what is on your list?

Let me know what you may be stuck on or need help with.  I love feedback and suggestions. Thank you!

And please share this list with your friends and followers on Facebook and Pinterest…

Peace, love and plowing through my list…

Ally